I am getting sick of being the "safe" female. I am a nice, non-threatening, geeky girl who will never ask a guy trick questions like "Does this make me look fat?". I don't play mind games. I would be just as happy to stay home and play video games with a guy as go out to dinner and a movie. I am as capable of making dirty jokes as I am of not being offended by them. So guys get along great with me. But there have been few guys who actually wanted to date me rather than just being a good friend.
I have seen my single guy friends go out with girls who make them miserable. Girls who try to come between the guys and their friends. Girls who expect the guys to take them out to dinner and a movie and pay for everything. Girls who expect to be the sole interest of their guys. Girls who make me want to strangle them not just because they're making my friends miserable but because they're giving all women a bad reputation. Yet guys are drawn to these girls like moths to a flame.
My theory is that when guys do meet someone like me, they immediately stop thinking of her as being female and start thinking of her as being a friend. That way, they won't be attracted to her, and they won't risk losing her. So they keep going through these relationships that aren't filling their emotional needs, because there's this hole that they're not quite filling in their lives. The problem with trying to fix holes is that if you don't do it right, you usually end up making them bigger.
I will admit that women probably do this too. I'm just sick on being on the receiving end of it. The bad thing about being "one of the guys" is that every now and then, I feel less feminine. But on the other hand, I don't want to be mean, and I like being a geek.