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Published on June 8, 2005 By CariElf In Home & Family
My grandfather, my mother's father, died this past Saturday from acute respitory failure. He had emphysema, and we'd known for months that he could have died at any time. Even so, I wasn't expecting him to die last weekend. I'd been planning on going over to their house on Sunday as I normally do, to bring him and my grandmother Holy Communion. He died around 12:30 Saturday morning, and my mother called me as soon as they called her. I was glad that she called me. Somehow, sleep makes it easier to face sorrow.

All of my family came in for the funeral. My grandmother has 6 children, and 22 grandchildren (including me). We don't get the entire family together at once very much anymore because over half of my cousins are going to college or have graudated from college and are working. A lot of my grandmother's sisters and brothers and their families came from Erie, PA as well, so there were also a lot of relatives who I wouldn't know if I passed them on the street. My family mostly Irish and German in ancestry, and while we don't have a lot of traditions from our heritage, we do all have the Irish trait of being able to laugh at funerals. We spent less time mourning my grandfather and more time celebrating his life. We spent a lot of time hugging, and probably spent more time laughing together than crying together.

Other people might have been shocked to see us sitting around visiting, and laughing, but Grandpa wouldn't want us to just cry all the time. He was happiest when we were visiting him, even when he was too tired to talk, he would just sit there and smile as we all made jokes and told anecdotes. I'm glad that we had the chance to say goodbye. I'll miss him, but I am still blessed with an abundance of wonderful relatives.

Comments
on Jun 09, 2005
I'm so sorry to hear about your lose. I can imagine your Grandfather watching his family gathered, laughing and smiling and remembering him with joy and not sadness, being a very happy and peaceful man. He's lucky to have a wonderful family that is prepared to let him go and to celebrate him.

I hope you're doing OK. Grief tends to come and go in waves, and you're never sure when the next one's going to hit the shore. Take care of you,

Suz xxx
on Jun 09, 2005
I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather Cari... it sounds like you were very close to him.

My family handles funerals the same way. We talk, we laugh, we tell stories and do our best to remember the good times we had. My grandfather passed away about 12 years ago now, he and I were very close. He sounds a lot like your grandfather, always enjoyed people, was at his best when everyone was laughing and telling stories.

I hope you're doing OK with this...

-Mike
on Jun 09, 2005
What a lovely eulogy of your grandfather. I was very sorry to hear about him, but I'm very happy to know you have such a great family to help you over the rough spots. Take care.
on Jun 10, 2005
What a wonderful way to celebrate the life of someone you loved.

Remember he is still there.. this time only in your heart.

on Jun 10, 2005
Thank you everyone for your kind words. I've been spending a lot of time at my Grandmother's house, and she seems to be doing well also. My grandfather's sister has been staying there, so she hasn't been alone in the house.

One of my youngest cousins, who I think is 8, was going to his friend's house down the road on Thursday. His mother went out to watch him go as she usually does and he told her, "Don't worry. You don't need to watch me. Papa is with me." (Papa is what he called Grandpa.)

I do feel as if he is watching us.